Welcome to Work At Home Dad, and thanks for joining me.
This blog – and my coaching services – are meant to help men like me who have chosen to downshift their careers so that they can stay at home with their kids… but either can’t afford or don’t want to stop working. More importantly, they want to do a good job both of working or parenting.
And despite what a lot of people might say to the contrary, you can do both, as long as you keep your head screwed on straight and stay focused on keeping you priorities in order.
To help you make that happen I am going to share ideas, tools, techniques, and simple, everyday life hacks that make work, parenting, and juggling the two of them a hell of a lot easier.
If you are the kind of man I want to work with, then want to start by applauding you. It is a damned hard choice to become a work-at-home-dad. You are going against the grain of thousands of years of culture, your own biologically driven instincts, and a hell of a lot of peer pressure to make this choice. And in this time, and in this place, it is one of the best, most rewarding ones you can make.
I wanted to start this blog off by sharing the single most important idea in this blog. If you revisit this idea regularly as you make plans and tough decisions, then it will help everything else line up.
By working from home, this is you have an excellent opportunity to raise your kids to become happy, independent and self-reliant adults.
There is nothing more important than that.
Before I make any big decision bout work,home, or child rearing, I sit down and remind myself of this idea. From there, I can ask myself a few simple and powerful questions:
- Which choice lets me give my kid the best experience and the best opportunities to teach him?
- Which choice lets me best exemplify the kind of man I want to be.
- Which choice makes sure I am nurturing my relationship with my kid’s mother so that we give him a stable home base?
- Which choice shows the strongest leadership, so my kid can learn by seeing me do the right thing?
- Have I done enough today to make sure my kid is happy and learning?
Often the best tools in your toolkit will be ideas and questions like these. Because they make it easy to make good choices.
You get one shot at raising your kids, and no one else is going to care about or love your kids the way that you do. It is also the one thing you do that you know for sure will matter for generations. It is probably the most important thing you can do in your whole life. If you want to do it right, you are going to w